Saturday, August 8, 2009


Recently a good mommy/writing friend posted a link to a c-section debate on BabyCenter. The thread began with a woman who found the International Cesarean Awareness Network's description of what a c-section is really like. The thread author was concerned because she may have to have a c-section due to breech presentation and was frightened by the realistic (although biased) description of a c-section. Her post lead to a passionate discussion on the topic of c-sections.  

My sadness surrounding c-sections are not that they are over-performed or that women are getting them unnecessarily, but because there are so many out there who believe that, by having a c-section a woman less of a mom or has been robbed of her birth experience. It seems that most forget that the entire purpose of pregnancy is to have a living baby in the end, everything else should be secondary. 

When my first daughter was born, I was induced without pitocin. I labored for 24 hours before she was born vaginally. 

My son was born 13 months labor by c-section. I was not disappointed in this, nor do I look back wishing I had a different birthing experience because my son was born from my body into this world and he was crying and I love him. I didn't have a choice on his c-section because, not only was he breech, he had a nuchal cord that essentially was tying him to my posterior-fundal placenta. If I was to go into labor, or he was to turn, there was a very high chance of death for him. 

With my second daughter I was given the option of a VBAC or a vaginal delivery after a previous c-section. Though the recovery would have been easier, I chose the c-section. It had nothing to do with convenience or keeping my shape - I don't know who started the rumor but everything stretches and spreads during pregnancy, regardless of where the baby comes out. My decision had everything to do with fear and love for my new baby. In the .001% chance that my c-section scar would rupture during labor, there would be a 99% chance she would die - not a risk I was willing to take. 

My c-section sucked with her, I had the c-section you hear about in horror stories but I still don't regret it. Why? Because right now I am loving an almost 2 year old little girl who could careless how she came into this would. 

None of us get badges of honor for birthing our children, and no one woman is better than another because of her birth experience. Keep that in mind when writing your birth plans - write it as a guideline to be followed with an open-mind and, above all, remember what your goal is - to have a living baby. 

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